So I was on Huffington Post tonight and I saw the article on The Very Real Struggle All Engaged Couples Face by Brie Dyas and I just had to watch the video. This of course made me laugh which is now why you are reading this blog and getting ready to push play on the YouTube link.
As a wedding planner, I always ask "What is your fiancé's name" or the bride to be will always offer up "my finance's name is...". I guess I didn't realize it was such an issue.
Do you remember it being weird? How did you introduce your (insert word)?
I am writing this today from the salon chair while I wait for my stylist to mix the solution that will soon hide the...well you know what she is going to hide.
As she walked away I said to her "I trust you."
She knows me. My personal style. Yet when I walk out of here, it may be 6 weeks until I sit in her chair again.
It takes a lot for me to use those words. Think about it. You trust someone with your kids, your livelihood, to ensure your safety on the roads, etc AND then you get engaged....
Of course you know the person that you are marrying and trust him with your heart and future but you now have to trust complete strangers with creating a day you have been anticipating for some time.
I tell my brides all of the time that you have to be comfortable with your decisions. You want to find someone that listens to you, is available to discuss your concerns, and is confident enough to offer solutions that work specifically for you.
This is a relationship that you are building!
Your planner, stylist, photographer, florist, DJ, limo company, caterer...they are all new to you. Make certain that you read reviews, schedule face time, ask questions, and choose professionals.
Your heart led you to the one you will marry and will also lead you to the right vendors.
As for my hair today, I leave the salon with a smile on my face and extremely excited that I again made the right choice.
If there is one thing that makes my head hurt, it would be researching insurance. There is insurance for everything and I mean everything!
Adam Lambert insured his voice for $48M, Jennifer Love Hewitt's smile is insured for $10M, even Heidi Klum's legs are insured for over a $1M each.
Yes, we are making our way down the checklist and insuring your ring is something that should be on everyone's "to do" list. Better yet, you could put it on your honey's "honey do" list. This doesn't mean that your insurance agent has to be the first person you tell but he/she does need to be informed.
There are a few steps that you need to take to cover this investment:
Since you are going to have your ring for - a lifetime, you will want to have your ring appraised throughout the years. This would be for inflation purposes, you want to be sure that if something happened to your ring years down the road, that you are given a ring at its current value.
Hope this helped - time for me to go update some paperwork...where did that ring go?
While sitting down to dinner this Thanksgiving, I started to think of the many brides that I had the privilege to work with over the year and wondered how they were planning to spend their holidays with their new family.
Every family has its own traditions and no one really ever wants to see those traditions end.
I know that for many years, I have been at my mother's house the 2 days prior to Thanksgiving assisting with the cooking and the baking. Then there is the day-of festivities of baking the turkey, chasing the men out of the kitchen, agonizing over another Thanksgiving football game, searching through the Black Friday deals, eating dinner, searching through more ads, eating again, and then shopping with the girls til 6am.
Of course, when families grow some of those details have to change. Its called compromise and it isn't always easy. Maybe you spend Thanksgiving with your family and Christmas with your spouse's. Maybe you spend your first Thanksgiving as husband and wife in your own home and call your mother for all of your favorite recipes (fresh cranberries).
Whatever you decide to do, remember that the holidays are about family and you must compromise to include all traditions. Breathe...you will get through it.
Would love to know what traditions you and your spouse couldn't live without.