So everyone knows you are engaged and they are ALL waiting for their invite to your wedding...is panic setting in yet? There are a few things that you need to consider before calling the printer and calligrapher.
For every guest you invite there is a price to consider. Nothing in this world is free and that holds more and more true when it comes to weddings. Each person represents:
The location you chose for the ceremony and the reception may also determine your guest count. In Charleston, you can find plenty of options that will lend themselves well for any size group. The question is...is it the right venue for you. While many will hold groups of 100+, there are some that may hold 30. You need to review the capacity of your venue with both the building coordination and your planner. Make certain that you also discuss the style of dinner you are considering. Sit down plated, buffet, food stations...all of these things require tables, chairs, and service staff which also takes up a foot print in the venue.
CREATE A LIST
We have all heard of creating an A/B list while making your guest list. Although the goal is to invite everyone to celebrate, the reality is that it isn't always possible. I encourage my brides to create an A/B/C (sometimes) list. When asked how I know which person to put in each category...this is how I respond.
"My A list are those that I can't live without...there is no hesitation...they have to be there."
Typically the A list are immediate family members and the closest of friends. No matter what the budget is, they would and always would be at the top of your list.
"My B list are those that I am close with an would be upset if they couldn't attend. They are the ones that I connect with throughout the year and are going to want to celebrate this wedding because they know we all have been anticipating it for some time."
For the B list, these would be close family members and friends that you socialize with. They can also be coworkers or associates that you have befriended. (they are more than just an acquaintence.
"My C list are those that I may wave to on a daily basis but I don't necessarily call when I am bored."
I say this because I think of a neighbor that I see each day but then again we don't necessarily call each other friends. Would it seem reasonable to invite them...yes....but is it necessary....no.
Your wedding day should be full of friends and family that will love, support, and be there for you after the wedding day. Don't worry about quantity...surround yourself with quality.
A Charleston Event's TOP 5 Reasons to Unplug for the Wedding Ceremony (in the voice over that they use on David Letterman)
#5 The bride just tripped over your tripod!
#4 "I was hoping to see the live version but your phone is in the way. Oh well, at least you have a big enough screen."
#3 "Who am I supposed to smile at?" (says the wedding party while everyone is telling them to "look here - look here!"
#2 "Click, click, click, click, click, click, click...I can't hear the vows"
#1 reason...The wedding party wants to get to happy hour!
Let's face it, we ALL have cameras right at our fingertips. Nowadays, it seems that if it is portable well then it should have a camera in it. I think all of us have spent a pretty penny on a camera just hoping that we could be the next Ansel Adams (hasn't happened for me yet).
A wedding ceremony is a joyous occasion and of course you want to document the moment. But as an invited guest to the ceremony, the bride and groom want you to enjoy and relish in the occasion. So much time and preparation has gone in to choosing the right vendors...especially the photographer and I think it is time that we leave the "clicking" to them.
Take a look at some of the recent articles on the web on this issue. I hope you enjoy.
"You Might Want to Consider an Unplugged Wedding"
"Forever Hold Your Tweets"
"Unplugged Weddings: Why You Should Put Away Your Phone at Nuptials"
With every wedding rehearsal, the question about how to usher a lady to their seat or to the alter always arises. Lets face it, the days of lending an arm are long gone and only really seen at weddings. This makes every guy nervous because they are not accustomed to this practice AND all eyes are on them to do it correctly...don't forget the photographer's lens.
Gentlemen, when ushering, offer the lady your left arm. Keep it firm and bent towards your body. Your wrist should be straight with your arm and your hand is to be in a loose fist. Walk tall with your head held high. Keep your pace slow and remember to smile.
Ladies, when a gentleman offers you his arm, take hold of his left arm with your right hand. You will rest your fingers on the crook of his arm. Keep your fingers together and hold on firmly but not too tight. If you are carrying a purse, do so with your left hand down at your side. If you are carrying a bouquet, bring it up to your waistline with your left hand. Again, take note of your body language - strong arms, head up, standing tall, and a visible smile.
These tips will make you wedding ready for your special day. I hope it helps.