To Invite or Not to Invite...that is the question

So everyone knows you are engaged and they are ALL waiting for their invite to your wedding...is panic setting in yet?  There are a few things that you need to consider before calling the printer and calligrapher.  

BUDGET
For every guest you invite there is a price to consider.  Nothing in this world is free and that holds more and more true when it comes to weddings.  Each person represents:

• More invitations, postage - "What time are we supposed to be at the church?"
• More bar - "Hey bartender, may I have another glass of chardonnay?"
• More food - "I adore these things.  I need one more of those bacon wrapped shrimp?"
• More rentals - "I need to find a seat.  These heels are killing me."
• More centerpieces - "These flowers are lovely...I just love the lanterns and candles."

It isn't a glamorous way to think about it but a budget is so important to consider and things will add to the bottom line.  

VENUE
The location you chose for the ceremony and the reception may also determine your guest count.  In Charleston, you can find plenty of options that will lend themselves well for any size group.  The question is...is it the right venue for you.  While many will hold groups of 100+, there are some that may hold 30.  You need to review the capacity of your venue with both the building coordination and your planner.  Make certain that you also discuss the style of dinner you are considering. Sit down plated, buffet, food stations...all of these things require tables, chairs, and service staff which also takes up a foot print in the venue. 

CREATE A LIST
We have all heard of creating an A/B list while making your guest list.  Although the goal is to invite everyone to celebrate, the reality is that it isn't always possible.  I encourage my brides to create an A/B/C (sometimes) list.  When asked how I know which person to put in each category...this is how I respond.

"My A list are those that I can't live without...there is no hesitation...they have to be there."

Typically the A list are immediate family members and the closest of friends.  No matter what the budget is, they would and always would be at the top of your list.  

"My B list are those that I am close with an would be upset if they couldn't attend.  They are the ones that I connect with throughout the year and are going to want to celebrate this wedding because they know we all have been anticipating it for some time."

For the B list, these would be close family members and friends that you socialize with.  They can also be coworkers or associates that you have befriended.  (they are more than just an acquaintence.

​"My C list are those that I may wave to on a daily basis but I don't necessarily call when I am bored."

I say this because I think of a neighbor that I see each day but then again we don't necessarily call each other friends.  Would it seem reasonable to invite them...yes....but is it necessary....no.  

RELAX
Your wedding day should be full of friends and family that will love, support, and be there for you after the wedding day.  Don't worry about quantity...surround yourself with quality.